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“Why Do I Sabotage My Happiness?” – The Joy Tolerance Factor

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By Marla Diann, The NEW Renaissance Woman Mentor

Did you know you have either a low or high tolerance for consistent joy and happiness in your life? It’s similar to our tolerance level to pain and stress; but think positive vs negative.

Most people have a low tolerance to consistent joy. In other words, they can only tolerate so much joy, good, abundance, love, money, health, and happiness.

Huh? Yep. I know. Us silly humans! This is fascinating. Read on.

Did you know that we are wired to have a certain tolerance (inner barometer) for how much joy, good, and happiness we can stand in our lives at one time?

For example, how many times have you had a moment or even a few days where you felt grateful for all the things going well in your life – you were feeling pretty darn good about your personal life, work, health, relationships, money… Then not too long after that you create some level of drama in your relationship with a spouse, money, business, co-worker, relative, mentor, or friend. You create a scenario that illuminates feelings of worry, doubt, fear, distrust, etc. You went from elation to Debbie Downer in a matter of moments or hours.

sabotage my happiness What’s up with that?

It’s a common issue with most humans. We are programmed to sabotage too much good in our lives. We tend to not be able to sustain all the good so we create a scenario to pull us back to our “normal” state of worry, fear, and doubt.

Crazy, right? There is a solution.

I created a NEW method called “Joylation GPS Method.”  I help clients identify their negative pattern via various exercises to then recalibrate a #newnormal of joy and happiness, which is where your genius lies. As a success coach, I desire for you to live and work from your genius most of the time.

Why? It’s when we are the happiest and most productive using our God-given gifts. We contribute more to the world from that place and are compensated the highest and most consistently. That means you need to A.D.D. more (automate, delegate, or delete)

For starters:

  1. Share with me below what you think your negative pattern could be that puts a halt to your happiness and joy. Describe a scenario where you moved from elation to worry and skipped being in JOY for very long.

In that is a long held pattern coming from an imprint usually during childhood. When we can identify that; you are on your way to interrupting your pattern that has been not only keeping you from more consistent joy and happiness, but your genius zone; which is your highest creativity and most productive state.

  1. Sit quietly and ask yourself “what do you most love to do in your work that comes most natural to you?” It’s usually a few activities that bring you the most joy. So much that time passes easily during your zone time. Don’t be mistaken in the simplicity of this. It’s extremely profound and life changing.

Please share with me your findings via email and let’s connect!

How about a #newnormal for how much joy and happiness you can stand?

To your JOY and Abundance!


About Marla Diann:

marla diannMarla Diann is a success coach for creative women professionals and women entrepreneurs who are committed to upgrading to the next level of life and business emotionally, mentally, financially and spiritually. The NEW Renaissance Woman brand speaks to visionary, thought-leader women. She brings over 30 years of entertainment PR, branding, personal growth, professional development, mentoring, coaching, and philanthropy to her relationships. Download her free audio “Are you wired for wealth?”  


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