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3 Dangerous Trends Even Smart Women in Their 50s Face
by Kim Acedo, MS, CHWC, Transformation Wellness For Women
You don’t just wake up in your fifties overweight, overworked, and overwhelmed.
The obvious culprits that lead down this path of destruction are usually poor health habits that add up over time.
BUT, there are also deeper, less obvious things that women might not be aware of that keep them in this cycle year after year.
As a wellness coach exclusively for women in their fifties, I study these issues and have discovered “3 Dangerous Trends” that keep women from achieving the fit, healthy, and joyful life they not only desire, but deserve in their fifties.
Improvements can begin immediately, but the first key is always awareness. I’m going to share with you the “3 Dangerous Trends that Keep Women in Their 50s Overweight, Overworked, and Overwhelmed” so that you can begin to become aware of if or when you find them coming up in your life.
Then, and only then, can you start to reverse-engineer your mindset in a way that will bring about achievable healthy habits you can enjoy for the rest of your life.
Dangerous Trend #3 – “Should-ing” All Over Yourself
I find that what drives most decisions for women in their fifties is based on what they think they “should” do, want, or feel.
It’s understandable. Heck, we grow up with both men and women (and oftentimes mom & dad) telling us what kind of life (or sometimes body) will make us happy.
Even today, we are constantly bombarded with pictures and ads telling women in their fifties how they “should” look and if they don’t, they’ll only continue to be ignored –- becoming more and more invisible.
Your fifties (pardon my “should” here) should be a time of reinvention, rediscovery, and redesign. It can be, but we must remove the burden of thinking we need to make a change because “should” – because we “have to”.
It’s time for you to start doing what YOU WANT to do – making healthy changes because YOU want to do them, not because anyone else thinks, recommends, or believes you should, even if some of those people are close to you.
Begin taking charge of HOW YOU WANT to live. It’s your life, your body, and your TIME to stand up for your wants, needs, and desires.
Begin to consider how YOU WANT to look, feel, and perform physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Dangerous Trend #2 – Giving From An Empty Cup
We women are great at giving, serving, and helping others, but at what expense?
The reality is that we simply cannot give from an empty cup. Something eventually gives and it’s usually in the area of our health and/or happiness. Over time, this results in us becoming overweight, overworked, and overwhelmed.
Family and/or career often take center stage in your 20s, 30s, and 40s, but now that you’re in your 50s, maybe the kids have left the nest, your career is stable, and you can put more time and energy into your health and self-care.
Another thing we’re great at doing as women is biting off more than we can chew. In a society that praises “superwomen”, we’re told that we should be able to do it all and handle it all.
We’re women. We know we’re capable of juggling a lot of balls in the air. There’s no question about that.
So then, it’s not a question of CAN we, but MUST we?
I believe that your fifties are the absolute BEST time to refocus on YOU and start putting YOUR needs right up there with everyone else’s. If not, it’s a very slippery slope toward an unhealthy, unhappy, and unfulfilled rest of your life.
Make a commitment to begin resisting the usual urge to fill your plate with more “stuff” that robs not only your time and energy, but distracts you from taking care of YOU. Instead, begin to take steps to “fill your cup” with things that promote a healthy lifestyle.
You don’t have to start big. In fact, taking small, realistic steps is the best way to make considerable changes over time.
Here are some realistic ideas that you can get started on today that will help you feel better immediately (you can begin with just one of these tonight):
- Get to bed 30 minutes earlier than usual
- Draw yourself a relaxing (guilt-free) bath and listen to your favorite music
- Throw out one unhealthy food item that’s been sitting in your pantry
And finally, the
#1 Most Dangerous Trend That Keeps Women in Their 50s Overweight, Overworked, and Overwhelmed – Punishing Yourself When You Don’t Live Up To Your Expectations
Almost daily I talk to women in their fifties who continue to yo-yo with their health habits and think something is wrong with them:
“Why can’t I stick to a healthy eating plan?”
“Why can’t I make myself exercise more regularly?”
“Why do I take on too much to the point of exhausting myself?”
If you’ve found yourself saying things like this, understand that it’s very common.
Also, if you find yourself starting over and over again only to find yourself back at square one and ready to throw your hands up and give up entirely, that’s very common too.
What’s more, if you tend to punish yourself over and over again because you just can’t seem to get these healthy habits to stick, this is again, very common.
So why is punishing yourself when you don’t live up to your expectations the #1 Most Dangerous Trend women in their 50s face? Because it leads to a continual cycle of negative self-talk that you are incapable, you just can’t get it right, and therefore a failure. With society already shouting these messages to us in a variety of ways, the last thing we need is to echo them in our own heads.
I know it’s not always easy, but I encourage you to start being more gentle with yourself and realize that maybe you haven’t tried everything. In turn, if you haven’t tried everything, then it means you’re not a failure, right?
Hear me out.
Albert Einstein once said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” The most common obstacle I see women in their fifites dealing with is that they try the same thing over and over again, but this time they do it HARDER or they’ll be more strict or disciplined with themselves. This is usually what happens when you diet over and over again.
Instead, here’s what works for my clients: Before trying the same thing over again, you MUST first determine HOW READY you really are for a change right now in your life. You might think you were ready in the past, but if the changes didn’t stick, maybe you weren’t the kind of “ready” I’m talking about.
How do you know if you’re TRULY READY this time?
I’ve made it easy for you by creating a quick and easy 7-question “Yes” or “No” assessment that will help you determine if you’re TRULY ready.
Here’s the thing. You must answer these questions as honestly as possible in order to really know you’re ready for the next step. The more questions you answer “Yes” to, the more ready you truly are right now to doing what it takes to live a healthy and happy life in your fifties.
It’s my mission to help women in their fifties experience their healthiest and BEST life NOW, not later. It’s YOUR time. Let’s see just HOW ready you are to embrace your most fulfilling life.
The first step is taking my quick and easy “Yes” or “No” quiz to see where you stand today. UNLOCK the “7 Crucial Questions” quiz now here >> http://bit.ly/7crucialquestions